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7 Essential Strategies to Achieve Your Goals in Life

Every one of us dreams of a life we want to live and the person we wish to become. Creating and pursuing goals means that we choose to take action and make our dream life a reality.   Whether you already accomplished some life goals or you’re just getting started, congratulations! You chose to show up for yourself and make a positive difference in your life, and that is already worth celebrating.   There are many ways to realize your goals, but here are 7 essential strategies to help you actually achieve your goals while staying consistent and committed.     1. Visualize the Future Self Our goals are reflections of the person we want to become and the life we want to live.    Goals are important milestones, but what we actually want to achieve is a lasting transformation in our identity and lifestyle. Think about it: Nobody wants to achieve a goal only to slip back into negative habits a few weeks later.   Goals are steps we take in life toward creating the version of ourselves we wish to become. It’s not just about achieving that goal, but about the effort, dedication, and self-love you will pour into the process that will transform who you are. It’s about the new version of you that is created by overcoming your old self.    The real goal is to become a person who will maintain the progress, the person who has the right mindset and continuously invests their effort into something they care about.   Take a moment to really visualize the person you want to become. Take a piece of paper or open your notes and start describing the version of you that has already achieved your goals and dreams.   What does your daily routine look like? What habits do you practice? How do you speak to yourself and others? How do you feel about yourself?   Whether it’s becoming a more disciplined, healthy, successful, or confident person, visualizing a future version of you can be deeply inspiring and help you understand what you need to change. Once you have a clear vision, start to progressively align your actions with that dream version of you—and step by step, you will become them.   Read my list of New Year resolutions you can set and achieve this year!       2. Set realistic goals The logic is simple: setting overly high expectations, especially at the beginning, is likely to leave you disappointed. You are fully capable of reaching your desired goals, but you have to understand who you’re up against.    Achieving your goals is a battle between you and your mind, between your old self and the version of you you’re creating. Depending on the goal and the starting point, this can be tough, but it’s most definitely worth it.   It is completely possible to exercise 5 times per week, eat only healthy meals and read 50 pages per day, but when setting goals, we should consider what is realistic for our unique situation. Our mind needs time to adjust to change, which is why consistency matters more than anything else.   The best way to set realistic expectations is to create many smaller and achievable goals, especially at the start. This not only makes us reach but allows us to exceed our expectations, which makes us feel more accomplished and inspired.   This strategy works because no matter the size of the goal, achievement releases feel-good hormones, such as dopamine, serotonin and endorphins, that boost happiness and motivation.     Remember that growth in any area is not linear, so be patient and get back on track if you fail. The key is consistency, not perfection.       3. Start Small and Build Progress Once we set realistic and achievable goals, we will naturally start to exceed them, and progress will follow. However, we can continue to build progress by raising our expectations in a way that suits our unique situation.   If your goal is to improve physical fitness, you might be tempted to say, “I’ll go to the gym four times a week and stick to a strict diet,” but this could overwhelm you, especially if your habits were very different just a few weeks ago. Similarly, if your goal is to spend less time on your phone, it’s unrealistic to think you’ll cut your screen time from 3 hours to just 1 hour a day. Instead, set realistic expectations, like reducing to 2 hours and then gradually down to 1 hour, to prevent feelings of failure.   Start small, focus on consistency, and do more when you feel ready. It’s much harder for your mind to adopt a completely new routine than to adapt to small changes over a period of time. Besides, you are committing to a lifestyle change, not just an end result, and that is a long-term goal.   That being said, don’t let the strategy of ‘easing your mind’ into growth become your excuse for inaction. Achieving your goals still needs discipline and commitment, so use this strategy to achieve sustainable, lasting and positive changes in your mind.     4. Create and follow a plan Benjamin Franklin famously said, “Failing to plan is planning to fail.”  For growth of any kind, planning is key. The reason is that achieving your goals is much like managing any other project. You have a starting point (your current state), you have a goal (your desired state) and you have your resources with which you will reach your goals (time, effort, money, etc.).   Research shows that goals are 42% more likely to be realized when we write them down. This is true, not only because goals written down manifest, but because a person who cares enough about their goals will write them down, make a plan, and strive to achieve them.    Writing down goals is a simple action but it shows a lot about commitment. It shows

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new year resolutions: ideas for 2025

New Year Resolutions: Ideas for 2025

Setting new year resolutions is about more than just creating goals—it’s about visualizing the person we want to become.   The New Year’s day may bring a surge of inspiration, but that magic quickly disappears: statistics show only 9% of people actually achieve their New Year goals, while the majority loses their motivation by February.   The reason is simple: achieving meaningful goals, especially life-changing ones, requires discipline, effort, and the willingness to make sacrifices. We experience real growth when we are willing to trade short-term comfort for long-term results.   The truth is, those 9% of people who achieve their goals for the New Year aren’t more special or capable than you. They’ve simply developed discipline and focus, both of which you’re capable of.   Don’t let 2025 be just another year. Make it the year you start turning your dreams into reality. You have all it takes.     New year resolutions ideas The most important New Year resolutions you can set are those that have the highest impact on your life. They can be related to physical and mental health, connections, financial health, achievements, and spiritual growth. Click here to learn the secret to staying motivated while pursuing your New Year resolutions.     Resolutions for physical health   Improve physical fitness Depending on your starting point, there’s many variations of this goal. But one thing is for sure: our physical health is the foundation of our mental health, which is the pillar of our satisfaction with life. Like any major goal, it takes effort, time, and discipline, but the rewards are worth it, and they’re necessary. Improving physical fitness not only enhances your overall health but also strengthens your self-esteem and self-respect. When you learn to take control of your body, you gain a sense of mastery over yourself, and that confidence carries into every other area of your life.   Eat healthier A major part of becoming physically healthy is caring what we put into our body. It’s unrealistic to expect you will never again eat some junk food, but adopting a mostly healthy eating regime is crucial for your health. Depending on our current diet, you most likely know what you need to cut out. Maybe it’s cutting down on processed foods, eating more greens and eating fewer carbs, or reducing sugar intake. Eating healthy is not just about being fit or protecting your overall health; it’s also a form of discipline. If we are easily manipulated by our cravings, we are so much more likely to fail in other temptations as well.   Quit an addiction There’s some habits that are so bad for our health that they have a special category. Smoking, drinking alcohol, social media, or even food and shopping are all very common addictions. These habits take away more than they give, so even considering quitting them is amazing! When contemplating, just remember the question, What kind of person do you want to be in the future? Visualize that person, and if this bad habit doesn’t align with who they are, make the commitment to change.  Addictions can be tough, so be patient. Start to slowly phase it out and seek help if necessary. Keep the vision of your goal in mind, and remember, you can do this if you really want to.       Resolutions for mental health   Create a healthy sleep routine Having good sleep hygiene is incredibly important for our overall health, but more significantly, it impacts our daily mental health and the ability to focus. If we do not ‘charge our batteries’ every night, our mind and body have no way to function properly.  Research shows that people who sleep less than 7 hours every day are more likely to have higher weight (33%), be physically inactive (27%), smokers (23%), and excessive alcohol drinkers (19%).   Start therapy There are so many good things we can do for our mental health, but there’s really no replacement for therapy. Especially if you went through some difficult situations in life, therapy is necessary. In the next year, consider giving it a chance and seeing how it works for you. Sometimes, having another, objective opinion can really help us understand ourselves better.   Practice self-love If your goal is to become more confident, secure, and happy in the next year, self-love practice is the way to do it. Self-love is about giving yourself the same care and attention you’d offer to someone you care about. It can mean practicing positive self-talk, taking me-time, practicing self-care, accepting yourself, or simply having conversations with yourself. The confidence and joy we get from self-love is incomparable with anything else and is something that no one can take away.   Spend more time outside  Being in nature is a necessity for our mental health, but our modern lives make it harder to make it our daily routine. Our human nature is to be outside; touch the grass, feel the sun, and enjoy the fresh air. Whenever possible, plan a hike or replace a weekend city walk with a walk in nature, even if the weather is not perfect.   Cut out negativity Negativity in our lives can exist in many forms, either in ourselves or in those around us. No matter the source, it’s crucial to recognize negative patterns and decide to distance yourself from them. Negativity often shows up in the form of complaining, ill-intended gossip, toxic relationships, or holding grudges.  If you engage with such energy or choose to foster it, it will just drain your energy. Avoid toxic people in the next year: you cannot help those who don’t want to help themselves, and you’re better off without them.   Decrease social media use Social media has become so pervasive that it warrants special attention among modern addictions. An average person spends 4 hours and 37 minutes looking at their phone every day, which sums up to 12 years during their lifespan! Take a moment to check your own screen time

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11 ways to improve self-esteem and build lasting confidence

Having self-esteem is essential for a happy and fulfilling life. Improving our self-worth and building confidence makes it easier to face challenges, form healthy relationships, and pursue goals. By focusing on ways to improve our self-esteem, we reclaim our power to live as our best, most authentic selves.   Why do we lack self-esteem? The most important step of every journey is the first step—understanding why we lack self-esteem.   Self-esteem or self-worth is a collection of beliefs, thoughts, and feelings we have about ourselves, while confidence is something we build on top of self-esteem that shows we trust ourselves.   So where do these negative beliefs and lack of self-trust come from? In most cases, lack of self-esteem stems from our early life.    Somewhere along the way, someone who is dealing with their own insecurities told us who we are is wrong, unimportant, or flawed in some way. Or, they compared us to someone they perceived as ‘better’, damaging our self-worth.   If a young person is continuously exposed to such influences, they can be significantly impacted and carry this wound into their adult life. If left unhealed, this wound can cause numerous obstacles and prevent us from reaching our potential. For this reason, the following strategies are vital to reclaiming control of your life.       Strategies to improve your self-esteem 1. Commit to the healing process Healing is a long-term goal, and while the process may take time, it’s worth the effort. To heal, you must address past traumas and allow yourself to feel the emotions you might’ve avoided.   Healing involves caring for your wounds. It means recognizing the thoughts, emotions, and triggers that reopen those wounds—and choosing to transform them into positive thoughts and feelings, using the power of your will.     2. Practice self-love You’ve likely heard the phrase, “The most important relationship we have is with ourselves.” When we lack self-worth, it means our relationship with ourselves is damaged or even toxic. It’s crucial to work on the negative aspects of our relationship and start loving yourself.   You can practice self-love by: practicing compassion when you make mistakes; practicing self-acceptance; committing to self-improvement; or simply taking time for self-care.     3. Become aware of negative thoughts Becoming aware of your subconscious mind is a crucial part of the healing process. Low self-esteem often leads to negative, accumulated beliefs and thoughts about ourselves. The key to overcoming this is to recognize these negative beliefs as separate from who you are and consciously replace them with thoughts that create self-love.   Focus on the positive aspects of yourself, even if they feel small at first. You can practice this by using affirmations, positive self-talk, cultivating gratitude, journaling, or other mindful practices. Also, through personal development, you can create new strengths and positive traits while working to minimize those you no longer identify with.     4. Practice Affirmations Affirmations are probably the most powerful and direct way to influence your subconscious mind. They are phrases we say out loud and feel, thus creating a reaction in our body. Similarly to how your mind believed negative things someone said, affirmations are positive self-talk that creates new, positive beliefs.    Affirmations are a tool for reprograming your mind, and they work quite fast when done regularly. An important thing to remember is to feel the affirmation. For example, if you say, “I love myself,” you have to try and really feel like this is true in your heart. Even if it’s not yet true, you’ll be surprised how quickly your mind will think of it as truth. Affirmations show how easily our mind is influenced.     5. Be grateful Life is difficult, but it’s much more difficult if we constantly focus on things we are not and things we don’t have. Believe it or not, with such an attitude, you can be a rich supermodel, and you’d still be unhappy.   Gratitude shifts our focus from lack towards abundance because there’s always something to be grateful for. Every day, try to find at least 3 things you are grateful for, even if they are very small. More importantly, try to feel the energy of gratitude, even if you have to fake it, similar to affirmations. Creating this energy will allow you to create it more naturally next time.   If you need, set a reminder each day and practice gratitude, either by writing down, saying out loud, or recording yourself.     6. Practice mindfulness There’s many ways to practice mindfulness, but it all comes down to being aware of your inner state. Whether it’s through meditation, yoga, or simple observation, practices like these make you look inside instead of outside, which changes your perspective.   Mindfulness is a great way to combat negative beliefs and thoughts, as it invites you to practice silence and stillness so that you can observe what’s happening in your mind. Our mind can often be our biggest enemy, and with mindfulness, we take control of it. Instead of reacting to everything it tells us, we detach from it and are able to recognize negative patterns more easily.         7. Learn from experts Knowledge is treasure, and regaining your self-esteem can be viewed as a project, so it’s necessary to keep learning about it. You can listen to one of many available resources online, whether in the form of video, audio, or reading materials.    When you can fully understand the problem, it will be much easier to deal with it. You will also be able to hear stories of people who found their ways to improve self-esteem. Believe it or not, most people have problems with self-esteem because most people met a few rotten fruits on their path. People who overcame their struggles are nothing more special than you; they simply committed to the process and didn’t stop. You are capable of overcoming this; just keep moving forward.       8.

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Conscious Consumerism: Bringing Back the Christmas Magic

Decorated streets, Christmas music, the scent of cinnamon in the air—these are just a few of the things that make the holiday season feel like the most magical time of the year. Yet, in our modern world, the true spirit of Christmas is often overshadowed by the hustle of consumerism.   Christmas has become a major economic event, with millions spending generously to enhance their holiday experience. However, in our pursuit of the Christmas magic, it’s easy to lose the sense of what we’re really after.    In this article, we unwrap how to get that irreplaceable Christmas magic while staying mindful of our own holiday spending habits.       How Christmas Became Commercialized The origins of Christmas as a celebration can be traced back to the 4th century, but it wasn’t until the mid-20th century that it transformed into the commercial event we recognize today.    There’s no doubt that part of the Christmas charm lies in the extravaganza. Businesses hopping on the Christmas train, people buzzing about their family gatherings, decorations, food, gifts, and so much more. However, it seems that fairly recently, Christmas has become more about its commercial aspects than its deeper meaning.   With the rise of capitalism and our society’s consumerist habits, Christmas is now a prime opportunity for major companies to spend millions on marketing campaigns that shape our spending behavior. The result? Spending has turned into the main holiday activity. As the focus drifts further from the spirit of love, kindness, and connection, the emphasis on consumption grows. We have more Christmas “things,” but less Christmas spirit than ever.     Ironically, a holiday meant to honor the birth of a figure rooted in love and compassion is used to exploit our finances, all in order to fit in. Many people feel pressured to overspend, feeling excluded if they don’t match the others. Feeling left out is especially painful for Christmas, and companies know: people will pay a lot of money to avoid it.    This approach doesn’t benefit anyone but the businesses. It takes away from the real value of the season, leaving us exhausted—emotionally, financially, and spiritually.     The Hidden Costs of Christmas Consumerism There’s nothing wrong with wanting a magical Christmas with all the extra things that make the holiday special. The world gives us plenty of reasons to feel stressed, so we deserve at least one month to enjoy fun traditions with our loved ones.   However, to actually get that feeling we’re after, it’s important to stay mindful of what we focus on.   The pressure to find the perfect gifts or host flawless gatherings can lead to stress, anxiety, and even holiday burnout. It’s easy to get trapped in the idea that more gifts, more decorations, and more festivities equal better, but that’s not true.   Christmas may seem special because of the decorations, presents, and food, but what truly makes it special is the feeling. Christmas is a time for joy, family, love, peace, and perhaps even spirituality. These are the things that make Christmas magical, while the external things only enhance it, creating a wholesome experience.     If we focus too much on material things, we might unintentionally create a consumeristic Christmas. We might become so focused on buying expensive gifts for everyone, trying to impress someone, or making the most beautiful decorations that we lose the feeling we’re after. Consumerism leads us to believe that the more we buy, the happier we’ll be. But in reality, the more we spend, the more we often feel empty and unsatisfied. Even if our pursuit is for a beautiful and magical Christmas, we may end up feeling the opposite.   Not only does holiday consumerism strain our wallets, but it also harms the environment. Americans alone produce 25% more trash during the holidays, including 4 million tons of wrapping paper. This, combined with the plastic-heavy decorations and packaging, only adds to pollution and waste. Consumeristic Christmas also drains our finances and makes us enter the New Year with financial regret.   As we reflect on the negative impact of holiday consumerism, it’s important to shift our focus towards how we can embrace a more mindful and fulfilling holiday season. Let’s explore how conscious consumerism can help us preserve the true magic of Christmas.     Conscious Consumerism for a More Magical Christmas The point of conscious consumerism isn’t to take away from your experience but rather to create space for deeper, more meaningful things that ultimately bring more joy than material things ever could. It invites us to pause and reflect on our spending habits, ensuring that our choices align with our values.   It is important to define your own limits. Some of us genuinely find joy in material things, and that’s completely okay, as long as we keep the focus on what truly matters. It’s not about perfection but about finding balance between celebrating and staying mindful of the impact our purchases have on ourselves, others, and the planet.      Conscious consumerism completely aligns with spiritual and ethical values like compassion, generosity, and mindfulness, making it even worse that consumerism has overtaken this, to some, sacred holiday.    Especially during the holidays, it’s important to represent our values, or we might be left with a bitter taste (wondering why—since we had so much sugar).   Even if we don’t know, our values are ingrained in our soul, and deterring from them for the sake of impressing someone or feeling superior will make us feel worse.   Conscious consumerism makes us more aware and responsible for the environment and the standards we unhold in society. Shifting our focus from material and superficial aspects of the holidays allows us to create a better Christmas experience for our family, strengthens our connections, and leaves space for beautiful memories. It also allows us to influence the little ones in our lives and show them the values we hope they will carry forward. “It’s

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7 Simple Practices to Relieve Stress During Difficult times

Stress is a natural part of life, but it doesn’t have to control us. By incorporating simple practices into our daily routine, we can manage stress and reclaim our inner peace. Whether it’s through mindfulness, physical activity, deep breathing, or journaling, these practices offer quick and effective ways to reduce tension and restore balance. In moments of stress, these simple practices can help you feel grounded and in control, allowing you to face challenges with greater calm and resilience.

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